You've all seen it. Every once in a while, someone sends around one of those “everything you ever wanted to know about me” emails or such, where there's a ridiculous number of questions about things like “what was the last movie you saw?” or “what shirt are you wearing now?” You know, critically important things to know about someone. Well, Kate posted one on her Xanga page, and me being the dutiful little reader, I copied it and posted my own answers. I should probably have spent the time writing my management paper, but meh. Today she was reading my responses, and decided I had a trend of depressing answers.
Kate, being the awesome person that she is, felt bad that I'm generally unhappy, and offered her assistance - “if there's anything I can do to help…” That statement made me wonder. Why is it that I find myself willing to do just about anything to help out someone else, but not myself? If a friend of mine is having problems emotionally or otherwise, I'm more than willing to do whatever they need so they feel better. But when it comes to my own problems, I'm just about helpless. Why is that?
I can't count the times I've helped someone through a depression, or any number of hard times in their lives. I've always been the person to go to with problems, the rock that people can count on. But when I realize I have problems of my own, there's nothing I can do. Why? I honestly don't really know why that is. Is it because I believe I can't afford to have problems? I don't know, and that's troubling.
I'm not depressed. Really, I'm not. Believe me, I've just spent an entire semester learning about psychological problems, and I know this isn't depression. If anything, it's probably just dysthymia, although it's been quite a while since I can remember being truly happy. That's not to say that I'm constantly unhappy; there are times when I'm perfectly fine, times when I'm absolutely happy. It's just that those times are pretty rare. The problem is that I'm not sure why I'm unhappy, and I'm not sure what to do about it. If it were someone else posting this, I'd probably come up with some kind of inspirational pep talk to cure their spirits. God knows I've done it a million times before and will probably do it a million times more. But when it's me… I've got nothing. That can't be good. Hmm.